Who’s pumped for the new school year? Who’s dreading it? Who just wishes summer would last forever? I swing between all three depending on the day. But this year, I wanted our ducks in a row before school started, instead of running around like a chicken with its head cut off. One of the most important steps was getting my kids on board. When kids have “buy-in,” they feel invested and care more about how the day and the year go. Here’s exactly how I did it.
What you’ll get from this post
- Questions to ask yourself about how last year went
- Why kids eight and up should get a say in the plan
- How I run a one-on-one “back to school morning” with each kid
- The timers, sugar-free gum and star chart I introduced
- How I explain each kid’s role in a smooth school day
- Why a wall calendar of fun things boosts morale
Chapters
- 0:22 Get your ducks in a row (or hit reset)
- 3:28 Debrief last year
- 6:16 Our back to school morning
- 9:22 Timers, gum and mints
- 10:04 Our star chart
- 11:28 The pep talk
- 13:11 A calendar of fun things
Already started? Hit reset
A quick caveat: if you’ve already started school and feel like you need a reset, don’t feel bad about taking a step back. Take a day off, do the things below and restart. It’s totally okay.
This builds on how I planned our daily and weekly homeschool routine. I’m assuming you’ve already looked at your curriculum and mapped out your routine. Now it’s time to get the kids on board.
Step 1: Think through how last year went
One huge way to make this year better than last is to sit down and think about what went wrong. Ask yourself:
- What were the pain points? What caused frustration in the kids, or between you and the kids?
- Do you have a behavior system with rewards and consequences? Is it still working, or does it need a revamp? We use our star system, which I explain in how we fixed bad behavior during homeschool.
- Do your kids need more motivators to get through each subject, like timers, gum or more breaks?
- Did your routine flow well? Where were the bottlenecks? I set ours up so I’m not overbooked: two kids watch a video lesson or do independent work while I teach the third.
Step 2: Debrief with your kids
Kids may feel no investment in school if they never get a say in how it goes. So give them a chance to share how they felt last year went and how to make this year better. I’m not talking about a five-year-old, but kids around eight and older. Getting their buy-in totally changes their mindset.
I also try to put myself in their shoes. What would I want to know? Things are always easier when we know what to expect and what’s expected of us. If we don’t share that, kids get confused and frustrated, or they frustrate us because they don’t know what to do.
Step 3: Hold a “back to school morning”
Schools have back to school night, so homeschoolers need a back to school morning. Catchy, right?
I took one day last week and sat down in our school room with each kid individually while the others watched TV. The one-on-one part is key. Kids love individual attention, and they’re much more responsive with no sibling to distract them. Here’s what we covered at their desk:
- Their curriculum. We went through each book together: what it looks like, how long each lesson should take and how many worksheets per day.
- Their week. I pulled out my notebook with how many lessons per subject they need each week. “You’ve got four language arts lessons a week, but only two science lessons.”
- The family picture. I showed them the order of subjects for every kid, and how I’m teaching one child while the others work. That helps them understand my time constraints.
- Their schedule. I showed them the rough draft of their own week, explained why I laid it out that way and asked what they thought. They could make changes. (I was secretly hoping they wouldn’t!)
One rule: the schedule isn’t set in stone for the whole year, but they can’t ask to change it the same day they think of it. I’m not calling an audible on the spot, because it affects everyone else. If they want a change, they come talk to me and we’ll make it within a couple of days. I’m sure I’ll have to remind them, but now I can point back to this conversation. (That’s how nice I sound every day.)
Step 4: Introduce tools that help them focus
- Kitchen timers. My third and fifth graders each got one to time their independent work and their own breaks. They were excited.
- Gum and mints. I put a container of sugar-free gum and mints on the school room bookshelf. They can have one piece per subject without asking. I think gum and mints can work a bit like a fidget spinner for helping kids focus, so I’m all for it.
Step 5: Refresh your behavior system
I went over how our star system works and showed them how I’d do a better job tracking stars:
- A laminated sheet on my cork board for daily stars. I add them each day and erase any they lose.
- A weekly running total on a non-laminated sheet. Every Friday at our star store, we subtract what they spend.
The running total lets them save up for bigger-ticket items, which is extra motivation for good listening, good attitudes and getting work done on time. The consequence side: if they lose all their stars for the day, they lose iPad time for the day. That’s a pretty big sting, so it works.
Step 6: Give the pep talk
Last, I told them how excited I am for this year: how much they’ll learn, how much smarter they’ll be, and how much better this year will be because of the changes we’re making.
Then I talked about their role. Their attitude affects how quickly and how well they get their school done, and it also affects me, which affects the whole house. Not in a threatening way, but an empowering one. When kids know they have the power to make the day better or worse, they’re more motivated to have a good attitude.
This isn’t a one-time talk. We’ll have it again the first morning of school, probably the next morning too, and often throughout the year. They’ll always need reminders.
Bonus: Put the fun stuff on a calendar
I printed out the next two months and hung them on the school room cork board. I write in everything coming up that they can look forward to: vacations, field trips, days off and birthdays. It boosts morale so much. School doesn’t feel like it’s going to go on forever when they can see a break and a fun thing coming. I like having it up there for me, too.
Key takeaways
- Before school starts, think through last year’s pain points.
- Give kids about eight and older a say in the plan to get their buy-in.
- Meet one-on-one to walk through curriculum, weekly lessons and the schedule.
- Set a rule for schedule changes so they don’t happen on the fly.
- Timers, sugar-free gum and a visible star chart help kids focus and stay motivated.
- Remind kids often that their attitude shapes the whole day.
- Post upcoming fun events on a calendar to keep spirits up.
What viewers say
🍕🍫☕ I really needed this video!!! Our first day of school we normally go through curriculum and discuss the flow of our days etc. I love your gum and mints idea!!
@oneblessedmommy4024 on YouTube
🥞 Thank you so much for this video! I love the tip about doing a reset! Its very necessary sometimes. I am homeschooling my 2 kids this year. 😊
@LynThinks on YouTube
Things we mentioned
- How we fixed bad behavior during homeschool (our star system)
- How to teach your kindergartener
- Our school room makeover
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FAQ
How do I get my kids excited about homeschool?
Hold a one-on-one “back to school morning” with each child. Walk through their curriculum and schedule, let older kids give input, then give a pep talk about the year ahead.
Should kids have a say in their homeschool schedule?
For kids around eight and older, yes. Letting them give input gives them buy-in and changes their mindset about school.
Why give kids gum during homeschool?
I think gum and mints can help kids focus, a bit like a fidget spinner. Ours can have one sugar-free piece per subject without asking.
What if we already started the school year and it’s not going well?
Take a step back, take a day off, go through these steps and restart. It’s totally okay.
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- How I Plan My Daily/weekly Homeschool Routine + How I Plan My Homeschool Year
- How To Fix Bad Behavior During Homeschool
- 6 Tips to Prep for Next Homeschool Year: How to Have a Smooth Homeschool Year
Full transcript
Hi friends who's getting pumped for the school year to begin who's dreading it who's not really sure and just wishing the summer would continue on forever uh yeah kind of oscillate between all three of those depending on the day so but today is about getting pumped for the 2022 to 2023 school year this is the year that we are gonna have our ducks in a row before school starts yeah we're gonna be prepared stress free instead of you know running around like a chicken with our head cut off
So who's in little caveat here though if you have already started school but already feel like you might need a little reset don't feel bad taking a little step back a day off doing these things I'm about to chat with you about and restart it's okay it's just totally okay before we dive in I do want to say a huge thank you to all of my subscribers y'all are amazing and we just hit 3 000. I couldn't be more thankful for y'all and I'm so excited thank you thank you if you are new here
And you haven't subscribed yet I would love to have you join us here in this community it's pretty awesome and in honor of all of you I want to do a giveaway this is my first giveaway on this channel and I'm really excited about it and I hope you will be too so I will be giving away a devotional book from the daily grace company called daughters of grace I am three quarters of the way through my own copy and love it love it I'm also going to be giving away a planner I got this planner like a month ago
And honestly as much of a planner as I am I have not owned a planner in a long time like a paper planner I've been typing everything into my phone or you know writing on a piece of paper but a planner has been awesome and I think you're gonna love it it's not just for homeschool things really it's meant to contain your to-do list for all the things you need to get done I like to start my day like brain dumping into the blank pages that they have
And then pull those things over and put them on today's day and whatever I think I can get done that day that just helps me feel a lot less chaotic I'm not having to juggle all that stuff in my brain I have put it on paper so I know I'm not going to forget it and it will get done because it was written down right so hopefully those two things will be a blessing to you helpful to you if you want to enter the giveaway all you have to do is type your comment below starting with your favorite food emoji
So that I know you want to enter the giveaway and then just tell me how many kids you're homeschooling this year that's it I'll be selecting the winner on august 23rd and announcing the winner in my video next week august 24th so stay tuned for that so thank you guys so much if you do find this video helpful please give it a thumbs up and share it with your other homeschool mom friends I really feel like this is a key thing to do in your home school what we're going to chat about today
So hopefully this will be helpful to you as well if you missed last week's video on how to prepare for the school year as a homeschool mom and how to plan out your homeschool routine that's really part one and I would recommend going and watching that one first if you haven't prepared those things yet you can pause this watch that first but that's really part one to what we're going to talk about today so assuming you've already looked at all your curriculum and mapped out a routine for your school day
Now you're ready to get your kids on board so let me give you my overall thoughts and then I'll break it down into steps one huge way to make this school year better than last school year is to sit down and think about how last school year went think about what pain points there were what caused frustration in your kids or between you and your kids do you have a behavioral system set up for the school year like a rewards and consequences type of system I have a video on what we do in our school I'll leave a link to that video below we call it the star system very fancy name
But if you do have a behavior system in place you know is it still working for you do you need to revamp it if you don't have one do you want to implement one this year this is definitely the time to figure those things out maybe your kids need more motivators to get them through each subject like timers or gum or more breaks did the routine you had last year work well for y'all or do you need to figure out how to finagle that better
So that it flows better for you maybe finding where the bottlenecks were in your routine last year so you can make it better this year like I talked about in last week's video I've set up our routine so that I'm not over booking myself what I mean by that is I'll have two kids watching a video lesson or doing their independent work while I'm busy teaching another kid so that kind of thing we also want to take the time to debrief with our kids about how they feel last school year went
And how we can make it better this year you know they may feel a lack of investment in their schooling because they didn't get to have a say in how it's going to go so giving them a chance to have some input will hopefully give them some buy-in as well and I'm not talking about like a five-year-old but like eight years old and older I give them a chance to have their say because getting buy-in from them totally changes their mindset about school and I try to put myself in their shoes like what would I want to know about the upcoming school year things are always easier when we know what to expect
And what's expected of us so we've got to share those things with our kids or they're going to get confused and get frustrated or they're going to frustrate us because they don't know what to do things will go much smoother if we're all on the same page okay now that all the thinking through of all the things has been done it's time to have a briefing meeting with our kids and a pep talk you know schools have back to school night so homeschoolers need to have a back to school morning huh you like it it's catchy right
So I took one day last week and I sat down in our school room with each of our kids individually while the rest were preoccupied in front of the tv now this individual piece I think is really key in this conversation this briefing meeting because they love individual attention and they're going to be so much more responsive and attentive if it's just them no other sibling to distract them and you can have a more valuable conversation when it's just the two of you so I sat down with them at their desk
And pulled out their curriculum and we went through each book together to show them what their curriculum looks like and talked about how long each lesson should take how many worksheets they're expected to do per day that kind of thing and then I pulled out my notebook where I had jotted down their subjects and how many lessons they had to get done per week for each subject to give them an idea of what their week would look like so all right you've got to get four language arts lessons done a week
But only two science lessons done that kind of thing and then I showed them the rough draft schedule that I had made like the order of subjects that I want each kid to do so that I'm not overbooking myself and showed them right this is kind of how we need to work this so that I can teach this kid at this time while y'all are doing these things and I can teach you at this time while they're doing these things and so I think it's really good to show them the bigger family picture hey this is what everybody has on their plate
And then showing them how my time is getting divided up and I think that that'll hopefully give them a better understanding of the bigger picture and more understanding of my time constraints and then I showed them the rough draft schedule that I made for their school week and asked what they thought about it and gave them a chance to make changes to it of course I was explaining why I laid it out this way and why I thought it made the most sense kind of hoping that they wouldn't want to make changes to it
But if they really wanted to make changes to it we could have and I explained that this doesn't have to be the concrete schedule for the whole year but if they do end up wanting to change the schedule they cannot ask to change it within the same day that they think of it like I'm not going to just call an audible right then and there because it does affect everyone else's schedule so I explained if you want to change this come and talk to me
And we'll make those changes within the next couple of days and they seem to be on board with that and I'm sure that I'll have to remind them of that conversation but at least I can point back to hey remember when we talked about this that is how nice I sound every day then I showed my third and fifth graders the kitchen timer that I got each of them so that they can time their independent work and time their own breaks so they were excited about that
And then I showed them that I put a little container on the bookshelf in the school room that's full of gum and mints that's all sugar-free so they can have one piece per subject and they don't even have to ask me for it they can just grab it and they were really excited about that I kind of feel like gum and mints can act like a like a fidget spinner does you know for helping kids focus so I'm all for it and I reiterated how our behavior system works
And showed them how I'm gonna do a better job keeping track of their stars every week if you can see back here on my cork board I laminated this sheet of paper so I can put their stars here every day and then erase them if they lose them that day and then we'll keep track of them every day and then we'll move those weeks totals over here this is not laminated and we'll keep track of the stars that they earn every week and we can deduct what they use every friday at our star store whatever stars they use to buy things there we will deduct those points on this list
And that way they've got this running total that they can look at and if they're trying to earn up for a bigger ticket item they can be excited about that and hopefully give them more motivation to be good listeners and have good attitudes and do their work in a timely manner so that we can have a good easy smooth school day that's the hope and by the way the consequence that is part of the system is that if they lose all their stars for the day they lose their ipad time for the day
So that's a pretty big sting for them so that seems to work pretty well and lastly I gave them a pep talk about how excited I am about this upcoming school year how much they're going to learn how much smarter they're going to be next year and how much better this year is going to be than last year because of these different changes we're making and because of our curriculum and all those things and just trying to get them pumped up get them excited then I went into how important their individual role is in making the school year better than last year
And in making the school day run smoothly and calmly and great I explained that their attitude not only affects how quickly and how well they can get their school done but it also affects me and then that affects the whole house and so I tried to really impress upon them that they have such a huge role to play and how our school day goes that they have a lot of responsibility in that not in like a threatening way but an empowering way you know if they know that they have the power to make the day better or worse then they're more motivated to have a better attitude
So just trying to empower them give them that personal responsibility explaining their very important role in how the school day goes I feel like is really really key and it's not a conversation that we will just have one time like we're going to have it again the morning that school starts and probably the next morning and you know like this is something we'll we will talk about often throughout the school year because they're going to always need reminders of this but I feel like it makes a big difference when they're reminded of their role in the school room
Okay one last thing that I'll mention is that I printed out a calendar up here on the cork board there it is printed out just the next two months to put up there and that way I can go ahead and write what's coming up that they have to look forward to so vacation field trips days off you know whatever it is birthdays putting that stuff up on the school wall so they can look forward to it in the next couple of weeks can really boost morale you know not feeling like school is just going to go on every day every week
And it's so long showing them no you've got this break coming up and this break and this fun thing I feel like adds a lot of hope and enthusiasm into having a good school day because it doesn't feel like it's just gonna go on forever so and I like having a calendar on the wall for me also I really hope that this was helpful to you and getting ready for the next school year getting your kids on board and getting them excited hopefully that will get you excited as
Well and you will have an amazing start to your school year thank you so much for being with me today don't forget to enter the giveaway in the comments below I'm super excited about that and excited for one of you to be the winner and thank you all again so much for being subscribers here I just love this community here on youtube everybody is so encouraging having this space for homeschool moms to chat and encourage each other is really awesome I hope you guys have an awesome day
And an awesome start to your school year and I'll catch you in the next video thanks bye